nap(they/them)
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What is demanded of man is not, as some existential philosophers teach, to endure the meaninglessness of life, but rather to bear his incapacity to grasp its unconditional meaningfulness in rational terms.

Viktor E. Frankl

nap(they/them)
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Incomplete (Late) Thoughts on the Blocking Issue

I know everyone is tired of this, so feel free not to read it or mute the tag or whatever you need to do. I just thought I'd lay out some thoughts collected from the original situation as well as others' thoughts and opinions (some of which I can't remember, but were good points, so this post will be missing stuff). Also, these are incomplete thoughts, so please don't take them too seriously. Plus I might be misunderstanding something/many things. I would've cited the posts that gave me some of these ideas, but I don't know how to find them again lol. If info from your post is in here, feel free to let me know, and I can provide a link to it at the right place.


Honestly, I get both sides, at least to some extent. And I think that, potentially, each side might be missing something. I'm thinking that it might be important to lay out the potential positives and negatives on the table and then evaluate them to see how likely/important they are to the general wellbeing of this site (which is kinda what everyone else is doing anyway, but... I guess I'll join in late).

First, I'm going to say that, personally, I don't think I've ever blocked a single person online, though I haven't had a reason to either. If I have, I just don't remember (which is also likely).

So what are the potential positives to blocking people without too much exposure to them? From what I picked up from others' posts (and I might be missing some things because... bad memory), here are a few:

  • People generally feel more safe.
  • People have more control over what pops up on their dash when others don't tag.
  • People with trauma are less likely to be exposed to triggers, as well as people without truama. (This is kind of related to the first point.)
  • People can instantly block interaction from those who have views that are harmful to them.
  • People want to have the same abilities (like blocking) that they have on other social sites.
  • People don't feel the need to jusitfy when they block someone.
  • Probably more. (Feel free to add more in the comments or something.)

What are the potential negatives to blocking "too much" or "too quickly?" Here are some I picked up from other posts/thought of myself:

  • Bringing Tumblr culture to this website, which is one thing it was hoping to avoid.
  • Exclusion, especially of new users.
  • A person might block someone without actually knowing whether they'd get along or whether they're worth blocking in the first place.
  • Due to reasons above, more people might quit the site.
  • If people block enough, art they might normally appreciate wouldn't get to them.
  • Probably more. (Feel free to add more in the comments or something.)

How relevant are these issues, and how much do they affect everyone? (I didn't include all arguements I could remember--just those I thought of as pros/cons to blocking a specific way.)

I'd imagine that you'd have to reach a certain level of discomfort to block someone, so I'm guessing that most blocks are done out of a high level of discomfort or potential discomfort if not something worse. If they're doing something like blocking out the majority of people due to trauma, like one post might've said, then they might want to learn how to cope with that better for their own wellbeing, but, for all we know, that person might be doing what they need to do in that moment of time. I'm not one to judge when people should/shouldn't block someone for their own wellbeing.

What about the downsides and the wellbeing of the site? How relevant are the negative outcomes of blocking people more quickly? I think I need more help understanding this, because, based on what I've read so far, I'm not sure how serious or likely the potential issues could be. I think the main issue would be discluding people from the site, but I'm not sure how much or how often that affects people on this site. Feel free to inform me!

In an ideal world, I think people should be able to block anyone they think they need to, but, in this world, I want to be aware of potential problems I could be missing about this case.

Here are some things that might've been misundertsandings (but maybe not):

  1. It didn't seem like Thell was talking about not blocking people for triggering reasons; instead, he might've been talking about blocking people because their profile picture is of a certain fandom or something else less extreme to some people. (I am aware that fandoms can be triggering to some people, though.)
  2. By saying they block people for "bad vibes," I agree with that one post (wish I could find it again) that said different people have different interpretations of what "bad vibes" mean. To some people, it might come across as blocking people without good reason. To others, it could be a very serious thing to pick up bad vibes from someone due to history or being a member of a commonly-harmed group of people.

Sorry, this is kind of all-over-the-place! I was hoping it would come out more smoothly and direct as well as shorter, but this is the best I could do right now. It's probably nothing new. Sorry if you've read this far and haven't noticed anything new!!


nap(they/them)
thoughts(he/they)
Time ago
thoughts

keep thinking abt that game design rule that says its especially important to give the player feedback when theyre doing something wrong cause otherwise theyll think its broken. no response = no programming

no such luxury in our wild uncertain universe


nap(they/them)
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Time ago

when i'm not falling asleep during art appreciation class, it makes me really want to make art again, especially after hearing about ill or neurodivergent artists. like this one person created art similar to her hallucinations, and it's like hey, i can do things like that with simialr experiences. i just need the skill.


nap(they/them)
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i made an account on newTumbl (hate the name btw) out of curiosity, saw a bunch of nudity, and quit. it's probably my fault for setting my viewing rating (or whatever it's called) to "mature," but they have so many available content viewing ratings much worse than that, so i took a chance... yeah, bad idea. if i were to use that site, i'd have to keep it on "office" mode or whatever.

another thing is- i've been unable to find people to follow. i'll probably give up on that now unless i get really bored.


nap(they/them)
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Time ago

okay, i think i'm definitely making a gaming blog at this point so i don't spam this one with that stuff. or maybe i shouldn't. maybe i'll post some game stuff on this blog and leave most of it on the gaming blog.


nap(they/them)
posted this
Time ago

one positive thing about people acting toxic toward me or behaving in ways i don’t agree with (and i’m not speaking for anyone else here) is that it makes me more aware of any similar behaviors i might have.

that doesn’t mean it doesnt make me overaware of any possible negative behaviors i might have, and it doesn’t necessarily make me aware of anything at all. but, overall, i think i’d rather be overaware than underaware, even if it makes me feel worse in some ways.


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